Ask Kate Column: Laura writes: "Is it ok for a prospective employer to ask if you have children in an job interview? I’ve been to a few interviews lately and been asked: "Do you have any children?"

Of course I’m honest but I believe it’s going against me. I had all the experience required for the roles but have been unsuccessful in getting the job. What can I do to prevent this going against me in the future?"

Laura, employers are on shaking ground with this question but unless you can prove they didn’t employ you because you had children, then it would be hard to claim discrimination.

If you feel compelled to be honest, ensure you put the information in context.

They are asking out of fear so make sure you tease out their particular fear and address it.

Example: "So Laura, tell us about yourself, do you have children?"

Answer: "What an interesting question. I’m curious as to why you ask it. Are you particularly family-friendly or has there been concerns in the past about employing people with children? It might help me supply the information you really need."

Or "I have three fantastic kids. I am not sure why you are asking but if you fear lack of commitment, my childcare arrangements are x,y,z and as you can see, I have x qualifications and x experience so focus and dedication while also being a mother is not an issue. What about you? Do you have children?"

What I would really like to answer is: "Why? Do I need children to do this job?" Or: "What is the relevance of having children to this job?" Or even: "Wait, I need to switch on my tape recorder. Now, repeat the question."